A commercial made me do it.
It was for real estate. Could have been Realtor. Could have been Redfin. Something with an R and a little boy with a sweet face who said goodnight to his Mom while peering at the stars because clearly she was no longer with him. He just looked so… lost. Then his Dad buys a new house closer to Grammy and Grandpa and at night he looks through his new bedroom skylight of stars and smiles as he says goodnight to her again, this time looking more a bit more content.
I wept, got up from the couch, and went over and emailed my nurse from the fertility clinic where our embryos have been frozen for the last 4 + years.
It was a Saturday and I knew she wouldn’t get it until Monday morning, but I didn’t care. It felt like then or never.
I don’t know if you remember me, but…”
I proceeded to tell her that we were ready to let our embryos go.
How could I ever do that to a child?
I waited a few days until I heard back from her and found out what we needed to do (a notarized letter). I brought it up to SHL as he was cutting up chicken for dinner. That seemed liked as good of a time as ever. I told him about the commercial and started sobbing uncontrollably.
After a long embrace and talk about leaving him to raise a child by himself, a conversation that nobody ever wants to have, we also dipped (again) into even just having the energy to raise a child (or children) when very often I don’t feel well. What would that look like? We decided we that we didn’t want to find out and went back to making dinner.
And just like that, I heard the door close. Softly. It didn’t lock, but it did shut.